Post separation parenting

27
Apr

Here is an article by me from last Friday’s Sydney Morning Herald on the impact of Australia’s increasingly international population and possible child abductions – http://www.smh.com.au/comment/laws-can-do-little-to-regulate-matters-of-the-heart-20160421-goby8b.html The article explains that six of the ten most common countries of origin of immigrants to Australia are not signatories to the Hague Convention on the International Abduction of Children.

14
Sep

LEADR-IAMA is one of the largest mediation organisations in Australasia with over 4000 members.  It holds a biannual Kongress which covers topics relevant not only to mediators, but also to lawyers and all professionals interested in negotiation and conflict resolution. In my presentation to this year's Kongress in Sydney, I shall explain how electronic communications such as email and text create misunderstandings and conflict.  I shall recommend ways in which professionals can assist others (and themselves) to avoid the traps of electronic communications that commonly arise in negotiations and dispute resolution. For a link to a short audio preview of my presentation (to be given on Monday 7 September 2015) as well as links to register - click here. I also spoke at the last Kongress in 2013 on lawyers at mediation.  For a link to my earlier paper click here.

02
Feb

I thought you might find this video interesting - www.kidsinthemiddle.org.uk.  It features English teenagers talking about the separation of their parents.  As a family mediator and lawyer, the video made me reflect on: Even though the interviews occur around 6 years after separation, some of the teenagers are still hoping their parents might get back together. The teenagers spend a lot of time and energy thinking and worrying about their parents and their separation. The parents gave little and conflicting information to their children about the separation - perhaps explaining the above two points. The separations could have been made easier for the children (and probably the parents) by greater communication between the parents and clearer explanations about what is to happen being given to the children.  Mediation is a great way for parents to decide how to do this. I have been referring my mediation and legal clients to the video. You ...

18
Jul

Below is a link to a survey which might be useful for you.  The link is to an English survey of young adults who experienced parental separation in their childhood.  Their recollections are a useful guide for separating parents – and family lawyers and mediators - when considering what post separation arrangements work best for children. Mediation and family dispute resolution is a great way for parents to focus on long term goals for their children. Here is a link to a short summary Taking a longer view of contact summary. Here is the full study Full study. The good news is that most of the subjects of the study felt their parents had done a very good job in organising their children’s contact arrangements following separation. 42% of the respondents to the study said there was nothing their parents could have done differently.  38% ...